I was talking with a good friend of mine, Sam, last night about sexuality and how I didn’t quite feel that the current categories were enough to encompass the feelings of all people. I explained the scenario I have some personal experience with, different feelings based on the other person’s sex. How when the other person is female, the attraction is of a a physical nature, a more shallow kind of attraction. And then with males, there’s the more deep, soul-engaging, bonding attraction, the kind of attraction over which people fall in love. We were trying to identify if there was a word that described this without the implication of more than there is. Bisexuality implies feeling roughly equal attraction to both sexes, which is not the case, at least in this scenario.

The word we eventually thought of was disexuality, which was maybe also a bad choice because urban dictionary states this as a type of masturbation that involves inserting the other hand into the anus, which is not what we were going for with that word. I don’t even know where to begin when searching for more information on this topic. I don’t think that’s it’s likely that I’m the first person ever to think this deeply about this. But finding more information is challenging.


~ by Alida on 1 December 2009.

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